The Love Dare - Day 4

Day 4: Love is thoughtful - "Love thinks. It's not a mindless feeling that rides on waves of emotion and falls asleep mentally."

I am a very thoughtful person. Actually, I'm probably one of the most thoughtful people you will ever meet. I'm always checking in on people to see how they are feeling after surgery or calling to see how their presentation went. However, I think I just assume Matt doesn't need or deserve my thoughtfulness. I don't make it a point to ask him if he had a good day or how work is going. It's very important to our relationship for him to know that he deserves to be treated with courtesy and thoughtfulness at all times. "Love thinks" is a great motto. You shouldn't just always fly by the seat of your pants when it comes to love. You have to put thought into it and be creative. You don't have to buy something every time you want to show your thoughtfulness. Sometimes a simple gesture can go much further. I know it would in my house.

Day 4 Dare: Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

This dare was easy for me as Matt and I talk to each other several times a day. However, he's usually the one who calls me to see how my day is going. I beat him to it today. I called him a little after lunchtime just to see how he was doing and to tell him that I would be home before him today for a change. I get off early on Fridays and I thought I would take that opportunity to ask if there was anything I could do for him when I got home. He couldn't think of anything, but appreciated the thought. Ahhhh...thoughtfulness.

Matt has actually mentioned several times today that my mood has been wonderful for the past few days. I just smiled and told him I didn't know what he was talking about. He told me to keep it up. His mood has been better, too. It's amazing how losing the negativity can rub off on him and create a domino effect.

Lord, I am already feeling the positive effects of this challenge. Help me to be open to the dares still to come and lead me thru this. I'm leaning on You. Amen.