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Thursday, April 23, 2009
The Love Dare - Day 35
Day 35: Love is accountable – “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Proverbs 15:22
Accountability is very important at work, at home, at church. To me, being held accountable for my actions causes me to think twice about the decisions I make or the words that I speak. It makes me want to do the right thing, the best thing. Accountability partners, someone who is in the same boat as us, can help us in so many ways in our lives. Ever try to lose weight by yourself? How about trying to trade stocks without the advice of a financial advisor? It’s more challenging without someone to pat you on the back when you’re successful, hold your hand when you didn’t do so well or give you advice from their experiences. The truth is we need to surround ourselves with like-minded mentors or accountability partners. To have a successful marriage, we must connect with other Christians. Others who want to succeed in marriage. Others that won’t abandon their spouse at the first sign of trouble. Others that desire to have a Godly marriage. Others that have the same happy times, difficulties, trials, and triumphs. Someone we can rely on to tell us the truth, good or bad.
Day 35 Dare: Find a marriage mentor – someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
While Matt and I don’t need any counseling for our marriage, I have quietly been watching a couple who I think would be perfect mentors. They are a public couple and they love each other unconditionally. I watch how they act with each other, toward each other, when they aren’t with each other, etc. It’s amazing how they build each other up and constantly exalt God. I have never and I mean never heard either of them speak negatively of the other. What a great testament to having a God-centered marriage this couple has. At some point, I will ask the wife if she would mind being an accountability partner for me…if she will pray for me and remind me to keep God first and to never say a negative word to Matt.
Lord, you know this couple. You know me. You have put them in my life for a reason. Thank you. Amen.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
The Love Dare - Day 34
Day 34: Love celebrates Godliness – “Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:6
There are many occasions in our lives to celebrate. Birthdays, anniversaries, a promotion at work, straight A’s for the first time. Do we celebrate enough with our brothers and sisters in Christ when they act in obedience and follow God’s plan without looking back? Do we throw a party when someone accepts Christ? Or for me, the first time I actually prayed out loud in a group? That’s a reason to celebrate. It was a victory for me.
Day 34 Dare: Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.
Matt’s life-long friend, B comes to our house once every couple of weeks to hang out, chit chat, etc. The “boys” usually sit outside (B smokes and we don’t, so they sit in the garage so it’s not in my house) and talk, laugh, relax, reminisce. B has been struggling lately with his relationship with his mother and Matt has been offering him some Christian advice on how to deal with the situation. B is also struggling financially, which is definitely right down Matt’s alley for giving advice as many of you may know. Matt told him about Angel Food Ministries, in which our church participates. B was very interested in buying the food at wholesale and told Matt he would like to order. So, we ordered on his behalf and PAID FOR IT. That is a Christian leap for Matt. I know it's only $30, but heck, he will squeeze a nickel until the buffalo chokes. Seriously. I was so proud of him. He didn't even bat an eye. I commended him several times for doing that for his friend.
Lord, thank you for allowing us to celebrate life. Help us to celebrate You always. Amen
Saturday, April 18, 2009
The Love Dare - Day 33
Day 33: Love completes each other – “If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?” Ecclesiastes 4:11
God created Eve to be Adam’s partner. He saw that Adam was alone and he did not like this. God designed us very differently, but males and females complement each other in many ways. Not just physically, but spiritually and emotionally, too. I don’t like to be alone. When Matt is away on business, I miss him. When we’re at work, I miss him. When I’m busy with the kids and he’s mowing the lawn, I miss him. That’s the way it should be in marriage. We are meant to be together to complete each other.
Day 33 Dare: Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel. If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you.
I always include Matt in decisions I make. Not necessarily the little decisions like which brand of toothpaste to buy or whether or not to have mashed potatoes with supper…but the big decisions. Should we put new carpet or hardwood in the house? How much over our 10% can we tithe this month to help the church reach its budget? When do we need a new car? Those are biggies. Matt and I always make those decisions together. That doesn’t mean we don’t argue a little bit before we come to a decision, but ultimately the decision is made in unison. Together. Matt knows I always confer with him when making a decision larger than what color to paint the hallway.
Lord, thank You for giving me a husband that listens and values my input and opinions. Help us to come to You in prayer when in disagreement with each other.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
The Love Dare - Day 32
Day 32: Love meets sexual needs – “The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
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Lord, please help me to be a Godly wife that fulfills all of my husband’s desires. Amen.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
The Love Dare - Day 31
Day 31: Love and marriage - A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
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Lord, thank You for parents that love me enough to let me go. Thank You for a wonderful husband that loves me enough to accept me and take care of me. Thank You for designing marriage the way that you did. Amen.